Even with this lever, I cannot turn it, no matter how smart I am, I cannot ignore my emotions. I will not get very far even if I was strong enough to move mountains. I will fall and stumble even if I had mathematically worked out the diameter of the pitfalls. If I cannot see my emotions as my equal, I will not need to bother at all. No matter how far I have come, no matter how much I have grown, if I can’t coexist with emotions, I will lose this war.
When you feel the rise of unpleasant emotions, take a moment and make an effort to identify their source. The answers are far more available than you may have previously believed. Accept such feelings as your own in the moment. Do not shove them underneath, ignore them or try to substitute what you think of as good thoughts.
If you’re feeling down, ask yourself “what’s wrong with this moment?” Chances are that you’re upset about something that happened in the past or you’re anticipating something that MIGHT happen in the future. But is there anything wrong with this exact moment? Probably not. So stop worrying. And if there IS something wrong with this exact moment, there’s only 3 things you can do to fix it: remove yourself from the situation, change something or accept it.